General Guidelines for the Sacrament of Marriage
Congratulations on your engagement and upcoming marriage. If you are interested in having your wedding at St. Peters, please contact Mary Cook (830) 816-5657 in the pastoral office for information. For use of the Cana Ballroom, please contact Jamie Pontillo in the Cana Ballroom Event Office at (830) 816-5630.
Non-parishioners who wish to marry at St. Peter’s are required to rent The Cana Ballroom for their reception. You will also need to determine which Priest you plan to work with through the marriage preparation process. If it is your home parish Priest, we will need a letter (or email) from him stating the following:
- You and your fiancé are Free to Marry, and
- He (priest) will do the marriage preparation paperwork and send this to St. Peter’s Pastoral Office a minimum of thirty (30) days prior to your wedding date.
We must have this information before we can accept your deposit and reservation
Steps to Follow for Parishioners & Non-Parishioners:
- Your first step will be meeting with a priest, either Fr. Norm or with your home parish priest. Please contact Mary Cook for more information about this and to receive our Wedding Policy and reservation form.
- After your initial meeting with a priest and we are notified that you are Free to Marry, we can accept your deposit and reservation form for the church. This secures the date for your wedding ceremony in the church only. You will also need to confirm and book your reception through the Cana Ballroom Event Office.
The fee for use of the church is $1,000, to be paid by cash or check. The fee includes a non-refundable deposit of $200 at the time of your reservation to secure the date. The balance of $800 is due 30 days before your marriage date. The rental price of The Cana Ballroom ranges from $5,500-$6,500. Please speak with Jamie in the Cana Ballroom Event Office to confirm pricing, date availability and details regarding Cana Ballroom Policies and Lease Agreement at (830) 816-5630.
The following documents are required to receive the sacrament of Marriage:
- Baptism Certificate with Annotations – You will need to call the church where you and your fiancé were baptized and ask them to re-issue a Baptism Certificate with annotations. The annotations are the Sacraments you have already received (1st Communion, Reconciliation, Confirmation, and/or any previous marriages). If you are not Catholic, please provide a copy of your Baptism Certificate from the church where you were baptized. Note: To marry in the Catholic Church, one of the parties must be Catholic, but it is not required that both be Catholic.
- Affidavit of Free Status – This document requires two (2) signatures from two (2) witnesses who have known you well (parents, siblings) for many years. The signatures must be witnessed by a Priest, Deacon, or Mary Cook (in the Pastoral Office at St. Peter’s). This document will be given to you at your initial meeting with the priest.
- Letter of Permission to Marry if the couple is from another Catholic Church.
- You will need to register for a Marriage Formation Program offered through the Archdiocese of San Antonio (or diocese where you live). We will need a copy of the certificate received after completion of this program. This is a requirement of the Archdiocese of San Antonio. To register, please go to archsa.org. Go to Department & Offices – and then Pastoral Ministries - and then Laity, Marriage & Family Life – and then Marriage Prep for a complete listing of all the churches, dates and times offering a marriage prep program in the San Antonio Archdiocese.
- Once you have completed the Archdiocese program, you will be referred to the St. Peter’s Marriage Sponsor Couple Ministry. In this ministry you will meet with another trained, married couple and go through the book For Better & Forever by Fr. Bob Runke. This is a requirement of St. Peter’s Parish. Please call Mary Cook to be referred into this ministry.
- At least a month before your wedding date, please plan to meet in the parish office to go over in detail your Wedding Ceremony. You will need to bring the gold Together for Life book that you received when you first met with the priest. In the back of this book is a worksheet that guides you in selections of Scripture readings and prayers for your Wedding Ceremony. You will need to have this completed before this meeting. Ideally, you and your fiancé should go through this book and complete the worksheet together. Please call Mary Cook to schedule. It is not necessary for both parties to be present at this meeting.
- Marriage License – please bring this to the planning meeting (discussed above). We will keep this safe, along with all the other documents that you have already provided. Legally, the priest cannot marry you unless we have this Marriage License. We highly recommended that you not wait and bring this in on the day of your marriage!
For any questions or concerns, please call Mary Cook in the pastoral office (830) 816-5657.